It is time to set goals!!! I do not like hearing that.
“I think goals should never be easy; they should force you to work, even if they are uncomfortable at the time” – Michael Phelps
Why set a goal? If you do not have a direction to work toward, you will aimlessly wander and never reach the wanted destination.
I am overweight and have tried for years to lose weight but set no goals. Recently I have decided that I am going to take my health more seriously. So, I am going to set some reasonable goals!
Goals need to be SMART – Specific -Measurable-Attainable – Relevant – Time-Bound.
Here is a little more detail on setting goals:
1) Set specific goals. Your goal must be clear and well-defined.
2) Set measurable goals. Include precise amounts, dates, and so on in your goals so you can measure your degree of success.
3) Set attainable goals. Make sure that it’s possible to achieve the goals you set.
4) Set relevant goals.
5) Set time-bound goals.
I have a lot of weight to lose, so I am going to set a SMART goal. (talk about accountability)
Specific: I am going to lose XXXXX pounds and lose XXXX sizes
Measurable: I will measure my goal by weighing myself twice a week, keeping a food diary on my Lose It app, exercising on my bike four times a week, and check-in with my accountability partner once a week.
Attainable: I will lose 2 pounds a week.
Relevant: My doctor strongly suggests that I lose weight. I want to feel better and be healthier.
Set Time-Bound Goals: Again, I will lose 2 pounds a week. It will take many weeks to lose weight, but I am willing to go week by week.
I encourage you to work with me and set a goal so that you may achieve success.
Is correcting someone the best way to change their behavior? I say, NO!
“Correction does much, but encouragement does more” – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Have you ever been upset by a teacher, boss, parent, or sibling? How does that affect you?
When being corrected, I feel my mind turning off, and I become extremely defensive. My jaws lock, my hands curl up into fists, and my breathing changes. Sometimes the correction is necessary and can be helpful, but when in this state, I cannot hear or accept anything. I feel judged.
When encouraged, I want to strive for improvement. I feel good about myself and work harder. I find myself smiling both on the inside and the outside, encouraging others, and being more efficient at work.
There are times when correction is essential. For example, if a person’s behavior is hurting them or someone else, confrontation is necessary. However, confrontation has to be done with care.
The following is information on confrontation and encouragement:
How to confront someone
1. Know when the time is right
2. Consider timing
3. Find a neutral location
4. Be specific
5. Don’t be too polite
6. Give the other person the chance to process
7. Don’t keep pushing if things escalate
How to encourage someone:
4. Catch them doing something right and let them know you noticed
5. Share positive thoughts as soon as they occur to you
6. Praise effort and progress, no matter how small
7. Tell them how they have helped
8. Boost morale
Today, encourage someone. It will make the person feel good, as well as you!