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"In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."

 - Abraham Lincoln


Finding yourself is a life-long journey.


Like many, my journey is continuous and ever-changing. It has only been in the past few years that I have become comfortable with who I am.


I struggled much of my life, doing whatever it took to make others happy. I did not know what was important to me and what I stood for; I continually became the person others wanted me to be. (Talk about codependent!)


I could not figure out how to please others when I was young. I was taller than most in my age group and developed earlier than most of the girls in my age group. I was awkward, had no social skills, and was teased mercilessly. I wanted friends, so I kept attempting to engage with others and getting hurt. I have shared in past blogs how difficult Junior High years were. Things got a little better in college, and I started growing.


I am in my 60s and am happy with who I am. I am a successful, service-oriented, and joyful person. The most important aspect of my life is that I am a Christian. I try to live in a way that is pleasing to God, read my Bible, pray, and share my faith.


Over the years, the following are a few things I have embraced in my life.


I am a Christian – A follower of Christ.

I was a daughter. I am the daughter of Albert and Janice Nottingham. Both of my parents have passed away, and I felt orphaned once both had passed. I will always be their daughter.

I am a sister. I have one brother and sister-in-law who live on the East Coast.

I am an aunt. I have three wonderful young people who call me Aunt Christy (not blood relatives.)

I am a friend. I have many friends who care about me, inspire me, and are examples to me.

I am a servant. I serve as a greeter at my church; I am involved in the community, help my friends when needed, and have many leadership roles in various organizations.

I am kind and compassionate and am learning to set boundaries.


For many years, I did not like who I was TODAY. I like the person I have become.


Navigating life's journey can be both exciting and challenging. Here are some steps you can take to navigate your life's journey effectively:


1.     Set Clear Goals: Define your short-term and long-term goals. Having clear objectives will give your life direction and purpose.

2.     Stay Flexible: While goals are important, be open to adjusting them as circumstances change. Life often throws unexpected challenges and opportunities your way.

3.     Embrace Change: Change is a constant part of life. Instead of resisting it, learn to adapt and grow through change.

4.     Continuous Learning: Be curious and never stop learning. Acquiring new knowledge and skills will help you navigate different situations.

5.     Build Resilience: Life can be challenging at times. Developing resilience will help you bounce back from setbacks and maintain a positive outlook.

6.     Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle: Prioritize your physical and mental health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and stress management techniques can improve overall well-being.

7.     Cultivate Relationships: Build and nurture meaningful relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. These connections provide support and enrich your life.

8.     Manage Finances: Financial stability is crucial for a successful journey. Create a budget, save, and invest wisely for your future.

9.     Time Management: Learn to manage your time effectively. Prioritize tasks, set deadlines, and avoid procrastination.

10.  Take Risks: Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and take calculated risks. Growth often comes from pushing boundaries.

11.  Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and mindful in the moment. Mindfulness can reduce stress and help you appreciate life's small joys.

12.  Find Your Passion: Pursue activities and interests that genuinely excite you. Passion can be a driving force in your journey.

13.  Give Back: Contributing to your community or helping others can be incredibly fulfilling and add purpose to your life.

14.  Plan for the Future: Consider your long-term future, including retirement and healthcare. Planning ahead can alleviate stress later on.

15.  Seek Guidance: Don't hesitate to seek advice from mentors, counselors, or experts in areas where you need guidance.

16.  Celebrate Achievements: Recognize and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. It boosts your self-esteem and motivation.

17.  Stay Positive: Cultivate a positive mindset. Optimism can help you overcome challenges more effectively.

18.  Reflect Regularly: Take time to reflect on your journey, your progress, and your values. Regular self-assessment can lead to personal growth.


Remember that everyone's journey is unique, with no one-size-fits-all approach. It's important to adapt these steps to your circumstances and values as you navigate through the ups and downs of life.


I urge you to walk confidently through life's journey and become the person you want to be.


Have a great week.

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