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"Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome." - Oprah Winfrey.


Success is different for everyone. For some, it is money; for others, it is status; others want good relationships, and the list goes on.


For years, I thought that I needed to be good at everything to be a success; that is not true. I am successful in several areas and am still working on reaching success in others.


Today, I will share one area of my life where I am successful—making friends.


In my last blog post, I wrote about how difficult it was for me to make friends. Being a people person, I tried too hard, and others would avoid me. Today, I have friends. You may ask how that happened. I watched and learned.


Due to life’s circumstances, I was forced into some social situations where I worked at not being obnoxious. So, this is how I became a person who has friends and can be a good friend.

1.     I made a list of my “wants” in a friendship.

2.     I asked for advice. I was fortunate there were a few people in my life whom I could ask for help,

3.     I practiced carrying on a conversation with a few trusted people.

4.     I watched others at meetings and social gatherings.

5. I stepped out of my comfort zone and began interacting with others.

6.     As I interacted with others, I found people I wanted to get to know better, and I asked them to coffee or lunch.

7.     I learned to be an active listener and show interest in what others had to say.

8.     When I listened, I found that the other person had needs, and I found that, in some cases, I could help.

9.     An odd but essential way to make friends is to display a pleasant demeanor. SMILE!!


I have learned to cultivate and grow relationships. Friendships are one area I had to work on, but now I feel successful.  


What do you need to do to find success?


Creating a roadmap to success involves several critical steps adaptable to virtually any goal or ambition you might have. Here's a generalized framework that can help guide your journey:


1. Define Your Success

·      Clarify Your Goals: Identify what success means to you personally, professionally, or otherwise.

·      Be Specific: Make your goals SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound).

2. Self-Assessment

·      Identify Strengths and Weaknesses: Understand what you are good at and where you might need improvement or support.

·      Gather Feedback: Sometimes, others can offer valuable insights into your strengths and areas for growth.

3. Research and Learning

·      Educate Yourself: Learn about the field or area you aim to succeed in. This could involve formal education, online courses, reading, or mentorship.

·      Understand the Landscape: Know the industry, market, or field's key players, trends, and dynamics.

4. Planning

·      Set Milestones: Break your main goal into smaller, achievable milestones.

·      Develop Strategies: Determine the actions needed to reach each milestone.

·      Prepare for Challenges: Anticipate potential obstacles and plan how to address them.

5. Execution

·      Take Action: Start working towards your goals, using your plan as a guide.

·      Stay Flexible: Be prepared to adjust your plan as you progress and learn more.

·      Persistence: Success often requires perseverance through challenges and setbacks.

6. Networking and Support

·      Build Relationships: Connect with individuals who can offer advice, support, and opportunities.

·      Seek Mentors: A mentor who has succeeded in your area of interest can provide invaluable guidance.

7. Review and Adjust

·      Monitor Progress: Regularly review your progress towards each milestone.

·      Be Open to Change: Be willing to revise your approach based on what’s working and what’s not.

8. Personal Well-being

·      Maintain Balance: Ensure you’re not neglecting other important aspects of your life, such as health, family, and friends.

·      Stay Motivated: Find ways to keep your motivation high. This could involve celebrating small wins, maintaining a positive mindset, or visualizing your success.


Tools and Resources

·      Project Management Tools: Consider using software like Trello, Asana, or Notion to organize and track your progress.

·      Educational Resources: Leverage online platforms like Coursera, Udemy, or Khan Academy for learning new skills.

·      Networking: Platforms like LinkedIn can be useful for building professional connections.


Final Thoughts

Remember, the path to success is rarely a straight line. It’s normal to encounter detours and obstacles. What matters most is your ability to adapt, learn, and persist. Celebrate your achievements along the way, and always be open to growth and learning.


I encourage you to take steps on your next journey to success!


Have a great week! 

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